Surviving the Holidays: A Guide for Women New to Recovery
The holidays can be a challenging time for anyone, but if you’re new to recovery, navigating family gatherings, social events, and traditions steeped in alcohol can feel overwhelming. Here’s a guide to help you thrive through the holiday season while staying true to your sobriety. (Scenarios below!)
10 Tips to Navigate the Holidays Sober
1. Have a Plan
Before attending any holiday gathering, decide how you’ll handle situations where alcohol is present. Knowing what you’ll say or do can help you stay grounded.
2. Bring Your Own Drink
Come prepared with your favorite non-alcoholic beverage. Something festive like sparkling water with a slice of lime can keep your hands busy and discourage questions.
3. Set Boundaries
It’s okay to say “no” to events or people that might jeopardize your sobriety. Prioritize gatherings that feel safe and supportive.
4. Rely on Your Support System
Lean on your sponsor, recovery group, or a trusted friend. Let someone know where you’re going and check in with them if you feel uneasy.
5. Take Breaks
Step outside for fresh air or find a quiet corner to regroup if you start feeling overwhelmed.
6. Focus on Gratitude
Shift your attention to what you’re thankful for during the holidays. Gratitude can help ground you and remind you of your progress.
7. Prepare for Questions
Family or friends might ask why you’re not drinking. A simple response like, “I’m focusing on my health,” can redirect the conversation.
8. Have an Exit Strategy
If things get uncomfortable, it’s okay to leave early. Drive yourself or arrange a way to leave when you need to.
9. Find a Meeting
Many recovery groups offer holiday meetings. Attending one can help reinforce your commitment to sobriety.
10. Celebrate Your Wins
Whether it’s a quiet evening at home or navigating a challenging dinner, acknowledge your accomplishments. Every step forward matters.
Scenarios to think through…
Scenario: Thanksgiving Dinner and Aunt Mary’s Wine
Emily is newly sober and heading to Thanksgiving dinner at her Aunt Mary’s house. As the family gathers, Aunt Mary pours everyone a glass of wine and repeatedly asks Emily, “Are you sure you don’t want just one glass?”
Emily takes a deep breath and calmly says, “I’m not drinking today, Aunt Mary.” She stays close to her supportive cousin who knows about her recovery journey, sips on sparkling water, and enjoys the meal. Aunt Mary eventually moves on, and Emily feels proud of her resolve.
Scenario: Carla’s Work Party and the “Holiday Toast”
Carla has been sober for six months and is nervous about her office holiday party. She knows her boss always gives a toast, and champagne is handed out to everyone.
Instead of panicking, Carla plans ahead. When the champagne is passed around, she quietly declines and holds a soda instead. She practices saying, “No thanks, I’m good,” and stays close to a coworker who knows her situation. Carla enjoys the night without compromising her sobriety.
Scenario: Maya’s Family Gathering and the Pressure to “Loosen Up”
Maya has always been the life of the party, but now in recovery, she’s nervous about attending her family’s holiday celebration. Her cousin insists, “Come on, just one drink won’t hurt!”
Maya stands firm, saying, “I’m not drinking today,” and changes the subject. She stays focused on the joy of connecting with her family and remembers that her sobriety is the greatest gift she can give herself this holiday season.
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How have you navigated your own holiday challenges in sobriety? We’d love to hear your story and share it to inspire others on their recovery journey.
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